When couples come to me during our pre-wedding interview, one of the questions I ask them is: "Do you wish your spiritual or religious beliefs to be reflected in your ceremony?" Most often the answer I get, (and one of the main reason I was chosen as their marriage officiate in the first place) we are not religious, so NO!"
Then I ask: “What do you mean when you use the word religious?” They respond: “We don’t go to church or practice any kind of religion.”
I then point out that if they sense or believe that there is some greater power or intelligence or “something” going on, but they just don’t have a name or engage in any organization or practice around this belief, they are still spiritual, as that is our nature, we are born spiritual beings. Meaning that inherent within us is the full compliment of mystery, infinite possibility, the wisdom, joy, power and love of the divine Cause back of all Creation.
Without naming or defining “It”, as our beliefs are personal and unique to each one of us I end up reflecting “that something, that mystery, which indeed played apart of them being together and will continue to be a part of the growth of their love, their lives together, their family.
And what this feels like through the words in the ceremony is a gentle sacredness of love and life, the potential of its unfoldment, the holding open a space for eminent change and the ability to adapt to it – and all the while being eternally connected to life’s possibility and magnificence.
This ceremony is carefully crafted to represent who you are in all ways. It is about you, your love, your commitment, your journey in marriage, not about God.